After my serious allergy to hair dye (thanks to the black henna tattoo) my doctor and I agreed it would be best that I never coloured my hair again.
Now that said, it is fine to agree to no hair dye in your 20’s, but as you head further into your 40’s the grey hairs start to come thick and fast (well for me). So you start thinking about your options or try to come to terms with your grey hair.
I have read a lot of articles about how other women feel about having grey hair and here they are some of the wonderful articles and blog posts on the subject.
Women In Consulting
Anne Kreamer – Going Gray
Boom By Cindy Joseph – 5 tips for embracing natural hair
The Guardian – Why women dare not go grey, The politics of hair
The Telegraph – I’ve had grey hair since I was 16
The Change Guru – Lessons from a year of growing gray hair
Make Up and Beauty Blog – Graceful way to gray
Andrea Bonawitz Styling – Aging Gracefully how to go grey
Just about to start reading Anne Kreamer’s book – Going Gray, will let you know my thoughts.
I feel like today is a good day to post this seeing as it is my 42nd birthday, so here goes.
I have read so many articles about what we should have accomplished or have or need to have sorted by our 20’s, 30’s and 40’s that I decided to put together my own list. I then thought who am I to say what you should have achieved when I am reading articles about what you should have achieved! It then came to me I know a bunch of 40 somethings, lets see what they think you should have nailed by the time you are in the big 4 – 0.
So here it is, I asked the question on Facebook to a bunch of 40 somethings and this is what they said you should have nailed by the time you are 40 and still growing….
1. Know what you are good at and love and going for it – Van Crol
2. Learn to live without out jealousy and make peace with your body- William Preen
3. Foundation Colour – Katy Heale
4. Patience and Empathy – David Smith Segarra – I am still learning this one.
5. That to be remembered and recognised is more useful than sinking into the background (yes blue hair helps). – Jessica Evershed, who has blue hair.
6. How to apply eyeliner, nail varnish – Also Jessica Evershed
7. Confidence….loving yourself….having true friendships….how you like your coffee!! – Chantal Hinkson
8. How and when to say no – Alistair Beadle
9. To wear the clothes you’re saving for ‘best’ before they either go out of fashion or you don’t fit in them anymore – Jess Evershed – she is full of good advice.
10. Letting go of people / things that don’t make you happy. Being brave enough to say ‘this is me and I don’t need you to like me-‘ just being happy and grateful for all that you have. – Diana MacGregor
11. Not giving a shit ie not sweating the small stuff – Sarah Edwards
12. Cooking eggs. Being kind to yourself. Quality over quantity (alcohol, chocolate, cheese, clothes). Fixing stuff with whatever is at hand. Knowing when good enough is good enough. -Rebecca Woodfine
13. When to stop drinking Peroni (I am going to add in Wine, Vodka, Snowballs etc…) – Ben Wright
14. Cling Film – Alan Edwards
15. Being proud to voice your achievements – Laura Johnson
16. Should have nailed accessorising. I haven’t. – Kerry Rowland
17. 1/2 marathons under 2hrs – Lisa Hughes
18. Been sacked or made redundant from a job and bounced back with positivity…- Daragh McDonogh
19. Botox – Stephanie Reade
20. Learn to always have some white wine in fridge, red at hand for emergencies. And a bottle of Champagne for special surprises. – William Preen
21.How to save for a rainy day, travel the world… or at least achieve your own travelling goals (before the Children arrive), volunteer, learn a new skill, definitely have children (if that’s what you want) because by the time you get to 40 they’ll be taking advantage of your old age …. – Helen Worgan
22. How to get over a hangover with Kids – Claire Redden
23. How to make a good G&T – Katy Heale
24. You should have something very expensive, that you have bought yourself, not out of impulse, but because you actually deserved it. – Caroline Cotter
25. Making it to the 50’s – Darren Trip
26. A great group of friends – Me – Sam Bruce.
I definitely haven’t nailed all of these so I think I am going to re-visit this post in 2018 and see what I can do about it. I think 2018 is going to make for a fun year don’t you?
Here is my pick of the loveliest leopard print handbags you can add to your Christmas wish-list today.
1. Gucci – Sylvie medium top handle bag – £2610
3. Jimmy Choo – Lockett Shopper in Leopard Print – £1995
4. Hill and Friends – Friendly padlock bag – £895
5. Boden – Leopard Print Backpack – Was £160 now £112
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Great help to watch this video, as I wasn’t quite sure why all these things were happening to me in one go. Thanks ladies!
I first spotted a grey hair in my early twenties and was a little bit shocked to say the least. It’s not that I hated grey hair or anything, it was the fact that I hadn’t even thought about it happening.
It’s not something you usually think about in your twenties…Have I got enough money to go out tonight – check, Do I have grey hair? – check!!
Being a very dark brunette, pretty much jet black hair, that grey hair stood out a mile and what with it’s different nature stood up very proudly on my head, but not for long as I yanked it out. Over the next few months I spotted more and I just wasn’t ready for them.
Being a low maintenance kind of girl, I popped along to Boots and bought some hair dye and applied it to my head. To be honest I really couldn’t tell the difference and the colour hadn’t changed either. My head got very itchy very quickly but just thought the dye had dried my hair out.
I woke in the middle of the night with what felt like a very stiff neck, I couldn’t move my head very much and my head was burning and weeping. I went to the mirror to check myself out. I got quite a shock, the reflection starring back at me looked like I had swallowed myself. My head and neck had swollen to twice their normal size and my eyes had swollen too. I looked like I had gone 10 rounds with Mike Tyson and hadn’t move from my bed.
Luckily I was at home with the parents for the weekend and I sheepishly knocked on their bedroom door at 4am in the morning (like I was 5 and going to tell them I don’t feel very well). I remember saying to my mum “Don’t worry and don’t turn the light on but I have a very swollen head” bang went on the light and I scared the living daylights out of all of us.
We drove to A&E straight away and got seen very quickly (I do love the NHS they have saved me on many an occasion.) The doctor was brilliant and put me on some very heavy steroids via a drip, and antihistamine and other medication to apply to my scalp. I was very lucky as my throat had started to swell and my breathing had got more restricted but we acted quickly and so did the hospital. It took about 2 weeks for all the swelling to go down and for me to be able to wash my hair.
The allergic reaction had occurred due to the allergy I had from the PPD’s in the Black Henna Tattoo I had a few years previously.
The moral of this story is:
Don’t get a black henna tattoo and always have a patch test done first when colouring your hair.
Who knew when I read that line aged 6 that is was ever going to relate to me! Know aged 41 nearly 42 it does. Eurghh. No one told me when I was merrily plucking away at my mono brow aged 17 that they wouldn’t grow back in later life and just start to fade away even if you don’t pluck them anymore but yet I would get a bucket load of hairs on my chin.